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Why Social Media is NOT Smart for Middle School Kids

Wondering why your middle schooler's social media use has ratcheted up your stress levels? Understanding the brain at this age can help you can take back control.

Caution: Your Tween May be Stressing Over Snap Streaks

Stopping your tween from continuing a Snapchat streak can easily make him feel like you are forcing him to commit social suicide. He will bargain and beg to keep his streaks going.
Carl Pickhardt Ph.D.

Adolescence and the Parental "No"

A parental "no" is a barrier to adolescent freedom. Parents have to decide when to keep the barrier up and when to let it down.

Teen Pregnancies Fall But School Sex Ed Doesn’t Work. Huh?

By Michael Castleman M.A. on March 15, 2017 in All About Sex
The number of teen pregnancies has plummeted by more than half in a generation. But a new analysis shows that school-based sex education classes don't work. How is this possible?

More Posts on Adolescence

19 and Reclusive

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on March 24, 2017 in How To Do Life
The latest in my series of interviews with reclusive people.

10 Ways to Help Your Daughter Get Over Her Boyfriend

A breakup is like drug withdrawal.
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Helping Your Child Deal With College Rejection & Acceptance

By F. Diane Barth L.C.S.W. on March 18, 2017 in Off the Couch
College acceptances and rejections are coming in. How parents respond can help or hinder adolescents in the developmental task of transitioning from home to college.
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Behavioral Addiction

There is little doubt that the Internet is resulting in problematic behavior. But should we treat that behavior as an addiction—and can we define behavioral addiction?

Why Young People Destroy the Very Things They Need Most

By Nick Luxmoore on March 15, 2017 in Young People Up Close
When young people spurn our best attempts to love and support them, why do they do this?

Empathy: There’s an App For That!

By Sara Konrath Ph.D. on March 14, 2017 in The Empathy Gap
The science behind using mobile phones for good
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Let the Kids Sleep, Part II

Why is sleep so important?
K. Ramsland

Murder Buddies

By Katherine Ramsland Ph.D. on March 13, 2017 in Shadow Boxing
Some adolescent friendships go down a dark path, but there are strategies for parents who want to deflect them.

Why Is My Child So Mentally Lazy?

By Stuart Shanker DPhil on March 10, 2017 in Self-Reg
Are children and teens “mentally lazy”? Is it a generation that would rather play than study, or one whose “limbic braking system” is affecting their ability to think and learn?

What If Your Child Chooses to Do Wrong?

Punishment drives the feelings underground and makes the bad behavior worse. Healing the feelings that are driving the behavior is what prevents a repeat of the misbehavior.

Help! I Hate My Daughter's Boyfriend!

By Deborah J. Cohan, Ph.D. on March 08, 2017 in Social Lights
How parents can cope with their child’s dating choices

Karate Kicking to a Song by Sia

By E. Paul Zehr Ph.D. on March 07, 2017 in Black Belt Brain
This is a story about a woman you haven’t heard of who influenced a girl you probably don’t know but who did something with a singer you’ve certainly seen.
Ryan Tauss

Stretching Toward Manhood

What do these boys have in common? Each perfectly portrays the vagaries of growing up boy.
Carl Pickhardt Ph.D.

Raising a Self-Confident Adolescent

Parents can be confidence builders or confidence breakers. Better the first than the second.

A Parent’s Guide to Surviving Spring Break

By Deborah J. Cohan, Ph.D. on March 05, 2017 in Social Lights
12 suggestions from a college professor

Your Child Just Told You He's Gay. Now What?

How you can respond, without offense but with unconditional love.
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Teenagers and Their Quest to Find Themselves

All teens will go off into the big, wide world as they journey to discover who they are. So be aware of where they go and whom they align themselves with.

What Is Anorexia Nervosa?

Anorexia Nervosa is torture for the afflicted person, terrifying for parents, and terribly frustrating for clinicians...

Back to Basics

How do we help stressed out teens? The answer doesn’t come from any academician, nor scholarly source. The answer is as simple as going back to the basics.

Why Is It So Difficult to Stop Obsessing About Your Child?

By Meredith Resnick L.C.S.W. on February 21, 2017 in Adoption Stories
Do you obsess about your child? Is it wearing you out?
Carl Pickhardt Ph.D.

Helping Your Adolescent Cope with Significant Loss

Parents can teach their adolescents how to make their way through significant loss when it occurs.

Should Bedrooms be No-Phone Zones for Teens?

By Amy Green M.A., C.C.C. on February 17, 2017 in Psy-curious
Three ways parents can help their teens log off before turning in for the night - without the power struggle.

All Problems Are Betrayals

By Nick Luxmoore on February 17, 2017 in Young People Up Close
For young people, all problems provoke primitive anxieties of betrayal: reminders of an original betrayal they can't consciously remember but can't help feeling strongly about.
Jens Maus

Brain on Fire

By Stephen Gray Wallace on February 16, 2017 in Decisions Teens Make
Attention-Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) has been called one of the “best known but least understood” mental health conditions. Why is it so well known?

Controlling the Conduct of College Women in the 1960s

By Frank T. McAndrew Ph.D. on February 15, 2017 in Out of the Ooze
Rules regulating the freedoms of college women were absolutely draconian in 1962. In hindsight, the unabashed double standards of collegiate social regulations were jaw dropping.

The Best Response to Narcissism in Students

By Tim Elmore on February 15, 2017 in Artificial Maturity
At the core of narcissism is the fantasy that you are better than you really are. But . . . what might be the cause of this misperception?

Five Things You Should Know About Gender Trends on Campus

By Marcia Morris M.D. on February 12, 2017 in College Wellness
College aged adults are redefining what it means to be a man or a woman.
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Falling to Pieces

By Stephen Gray Wallace on February 07, 2017 in Decisions Teens Make
How to process the permanence of loss? Of course, there are the well-known stages of grief: denial, anger, bargaining, depression (or despair) and, ultimately, perhaps, acceptance.

How to Survive Your Beloved Adolescent

Being a parent is the hardest job you ever love...and research shows that it's hardest during adolescence. Very few people offer good advice. So here is my master plan for you:

Achieving Happiness by Helping Others

When we help others we feel happy. There is a relationship between our well-being and giving our time, money or other resources to a cause that we are passionate about.