Are We All Haters?

"All my friends in New York define themselves by what they hate,” says Lena Dunham’s character, Hannah Horvath, on Girls.

Bullying, Identity, and the "Escape from Freedom"

“If humanity cannot live with the dangers and responsibilities inherent in freedom, it will probably turn to authoritarianism.” Erich Fromm, 1941.

Yes Virginia, Family Members Can be Bullies

Family tables are where we first learn that our silence keeps us out of the line of fire. Yet be wary of addressing the disrespect of the present AND the slights of holidays past.

Rhetoric, Violence, and Redemption

Social pain—rejection, shame, disrespect—resonates in the "pain center" of the brain, impairing cognitive capacities. This opens the door for violent responses to Trump's rhetoric.

What Can We Tell Our Children About the Bully Who Won?

There simply are no answers to our children's questions. What there are, though, are responses—responses that break the collusive silence that tacitly endorses bullying.

Can ‘Death Doulas’ Shield You From Bullying Around Funerals?

INTERVIEWER: Tell me more about how you interrupt bullying tactics—how you prevent folks from being harassed or made to feel incompetent throughout this difficult process

The NFL Is Enforcing New Taunting Penalties

How will athletes respond to public humiliation? To 'penalties in kind' that strip them of respect, playing time, even jobs?

Response to'The School Did Nothing to Stop the Bullying Lie'

Juxtaposing the emergence of bullying as a contemporary social problem against the emergence of domestic violence as a social problem during the 60s and 70s is instructive.

Undermining "Black Lives Matter"?

The Blue movement can ALSO be legitimately viewed as co-opting the “Black Lives Matter” slogan, undermining its power; perverting its sentiment.

Open Letter to Hillary

Lest you come off as a privileged bully who has no accountability, you must come clean.

Is Parental Authority 'Bullying'?

Perhaps we model (non-physical) aggressions in our homes, even as we decry the (re)enactment of these behaviors on the playground, in the hallways, on the bus, in the cafeteria.

Gay Rights vs. Religious Intolerance

Think of the Emancipation Proclamation, or Civil Rights Act of 1964: both drew battle lines, and signaled the start of the ‘real fight.’

Where Are Bystander Interventions to Trump's Bullying?

In this reversal, the true ‘bystanders’ are Trump’s supporters, who rally behind the victim-turned-avenger, standing up to the henchmen of the liberal bullies—the liberal press.

Female, Over 50, and Over-qualified

Is the continued under-employment of professional women in a post-recession job market discriminatory, or an instance of institutionalized bullying?

HB2 as Cultural Narrative

What must it be like to have 'dread'—and perhaps even 'shame' and 'inadequacy'—coded into brain circuitry linked to the urge to use a bathroom?

Finding Professional Help for Victims of Bullying

Sadly, parents might need to decide whether they should drain college savings accounts in order to get their child the professional help they need to get through high school.

Blurred Lines

Where, exactly, is the line between affirming shared values and cruelly excluding others? When do stances that ratify one’s own positions become rejection and bullying?

Trump, Bullying, and Narcissistic Culture

The mockery launched at detractors (anyone “un-American” enough to have alternate points of view) is undergirded by a sense of patriotism that meshes well with the me-generation...

Trump, Bullying, and Narcissism

Social aggressions can be re-cast when the narrative is one of a mythic lone rebel taking justice into his own hands, or David taking on Goliath (America loves an underdog).

Trigger Warnings, Micro-aggressions and Bullying

Today, adding films like The Rapture or A Clockwork Orange to my syllabus might make me a bully—and wishing someone a "Merry Christmas" might be a micro-aggression.

Should Bullying be Made Illegal?

Police Chief Ault authored an ordinance that fines the parents of repeat offenders of bullying. The ordinance, which imposes a $124 fine, turns school disciplinary codes into law.

Jeering the Mets

Gloating over the Met’s loss, jeering at Daniel Murphy's error, conflating a “failure” with an identity is precisely the mentality that twists lifestyle differences into hatred and homophobia.

Rudolph the Red-Nosed Reindeer --Already??

Why had I never realized that Rudolph the Red-Nosed Reindeer is built around the bullying, shaming and rejecting a child who is different?

Five Strategies That Reinforce Anti-Bullying Initiatives

Even if young people roll their eyes, sigh, and show other signs of boredom, what we establish as normative ‘gets in sideways.’ The more ways we can counter bullying and its effects, the more extensively we will embed these values in the culture of our schoosl.

On-Air Shooting Raises Specter of "Bullying"

Before we are content to establish Flanagan’s ‘underlying mental instability,’ or situate the tragedy at the intersection of graphic video games and life, we must consider the ways in which our culture is fast paced and unforgiving.

Grid Irony? Taunting Initiatives and the NFL

With taunting penalties on the books since the mid 1980's, the NFL has the opportunity to take on much more than jeers, derision, and game-related 'in-your-face' posturing. By modelling and showcasing what it already proclaims—that ridicule, disparagement and discrimination will not be tolerated—the league reinforces social, anti-bullying agendas.

"Bullying Fiction" Top Picks

Adolescence. At times synonymous with daily dramas…. until she takes her own life or he brings a gun to school—and uses it. This blog contains a list of books, fictional and/or autobiographical, that speak to these tragic scenarios, as well as to dysfunctional behaviors (including cutting and eating disorders) that are often linked to bullying.

Your Old School-Days Bully Wants to Friend You

On the one hand, you can finally have your voice heard, even dish back a moment of—pain? Doubt? Regret? Humility? (while reminding him or her what a little shit s/he was). On the other hand, what’s the point? Reminding them of their cruelties may feel good, in the moment, but after hitting “Send” are you really able to move on? What is it you want?

Finally! An Internet Response to Cyber-bullying

"HeartMob" will provide an on-line platform for reporting cyber-cruelty.

"Burn Book": An App for Bullying

For those over 30, or without teenage children, the term “Burn Book” may have no meaning. 0thers will recognize it as the iconic Treasury of Nastiness from the movie Mean Girls. Now it has become an app—one that enables anonymous bullying in specific, selected communities:

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