Adolescence and the Parental "No"

A parental "no" is a barrier to adolescent freedom. Parents have to decide when to keep the barrier up and when to let it down.

Raising a Self-Confident Adolescent

Parents can be confidence builders or confidence breakers. Better the first than the second.

Helping Your Adolescent Cope with Significant Loss

Parents can teach their adolescents how to make their way through significant loss when it occurs.

Teaching the Early Adolescent About Freedom

Adolescence are concerned with getting freedom to grow -- freedom from from old restraints and freedom for new opportunity. Parents need to speak to both concerns.

Reluctance to Grow Up at the Outset and End of Adolescence

Rate of growing up varies widely, and that is okay. If slow, the main thing is for parents to be patient.

Social Challenges of Middle School

So many adolescent changes unfold in middle school, most young people find it an emotionally challenging experience.

The Invisible Efforts of Parenting

Celebrate your investment. Your teenager won't.

The Parent's Job With an Adolescent in High School

The parent's "home schooling" curriculum for their high school student is preparing the young person for more independent functioning after the high school years.

Adolescence and the Worrisome Transition to High School

Worry can increase anxiety, but it can also spare a lot of harm.

When Becoming Step Parent to an Adolescent

The attached, young child is more likely to accept and bond with a step parent, than the adolescent who is detaching and differentiating for more independence and individuality.

Adolescence and "Getting Over" Parental Divorce

Parental divorce disorganizes and challenges adolescents as they adjust to living with parents separately, and leading dual family lives.

Helping Older Adolescents Evaluate a Love Relationship

The great source of instruction about conducting caring relationships is experience; however, parental guidance can help sort that experience out.

Parenting to Support the Twin Purposes of Adolescence

To maintain caring and communicative connections with their adolescent, parents need to treat detachment and differentiation as functional parts of growing up.

Adolescence and Four Skills of Self-Discipline

Developing self-discipline is part of growing independence as one develops the capacity to become one's own authority when it comes to accomplishing what one needs to do.

Puberty and Preoccupation With Personal Appearance

Puberty creates all kinds of pressures and worries about how one's changing body is going to turn out, and how one will be treated based on one's looks.

The Changing Reputation of Parents With Their Adolescent

It can be hard for parents to lose their positive reputation with the child to the more negative reputation with the adolescent.

Adolescence and the Parental Brain Trust

It can strengthen adolescent capacity to cope to have open access to what, by living longer, parents have come to know.

Adolescence and Speed of Life

The demands of adolescence become more numerous as one grows because one must get up to speed to cope with the increased complexity of life.

Identity Experimentation in Early and Mid Adolescence

Adolescence is partly about experimentation with self-definition to try out and find out what identity truly fits.

Conducting Conflict with Your Adolescent

The curriculum of family life teaches the adolescent how to manage significant relationships. Learning how to conduct conflict constructively is one important skill for later on.

The Complexity of Parental Questions for Adolescents

When it comes to asking the teenager questions, the intention of the parent can be quite different than the interpretation of the adolescent. So, proceed with care.

Adolescence and the Power of Personal Challenge

When it comes to facing and creating challenges growing up, a young person never knows all they can do until they try.

Early Adolescence, Loss of Confidence, and Fears of Trying

Confidence motivates trying. Most early adolescents leave some confidence behind when they separate from childhood, and now they have some building back up of themselves to do.

Helping Your Adolescent Manage Increased Emotional Intensity

An important avenue of self-management education in adolescence is learning how to manage emotions so that they serve the teenager well, and not badly. Parents can be of help.

How the End of Adolescence (18 - 23) Can Feel Overwhelming

The transition from the last stage of adolescence, Trial Independence, into young adulthood is fraught with challenges. Parents who understand why and what to do can be of help.

Detachment and Diversity Parenting Your Adolescent

For the adolescent to grow to a responsible independence and develop a uniquely fitting identity, some separation and differentiation from parents is required.

Avoiding Adverse Emotional Responses to Your Adolescent

Emotions are good informants, but can be bad advisors, so parents need to consult their judgment when dealing with adolescent changes.

Managing 3 R's of the Parent/Adolescent Relationship

Learning how to manage the working compromise of their relationship with parents can help the teenager in managing significant relationships later on.

Why Adolescents Can Become Harder to Teach Than Children

Understanding possible causes of student distraction and disaffection may help teachers of adolescents better appreciate the challenge of their job.

Negotiating Incompatible Differences with Your Adolescent

Incompatibilities between parent and child increase with adolescence, so it behooves parents to recognize the kind of difference in play and handle it with sensitivity.

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