What is Self-Esteem?

Possessing little self-regard can lead people to become depressed, to fall short of their potential, or to tolerate abusive situations and relationships. Too much self-love, on the other hand, results in an off-putting sense of entitlement and an inability to learn from failures. (It can also be a sign of clinical narcissism.) Perhaps no other self-help topic has spawned so much advice and so many (often conflicting) theories. Here are our best insights on how to strike a balance between accurate self-knowledge and respect for who you are.

Recent posts on Self-Esteem

The Mental Wellness Routine That Will Change Your Life

By Jennice Vilhauer Ph.D. on March 28, 2017 in Living Forward
Do you know what you need to do in order to be happy? Here are 5 essential activities that if done regularly will bring about positive emotional well-being.

Women and the Good Ole Boys Club

Women are a long way from reaching parity with men in the executive suites and boardrooms of Fortune 500 companies.
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8 Steps to Improving Self-Worth

Ever struggle with self-doubt? (Who hasn't?) Here are some ways to start conquering those demons and begin to embrace the lovable being that you are.
Source: Kristin A. Meekhof

Three Ways To Cultivate Abundance

Here are three ways to create the life you desire

How to Be Spontaneous

By Katherine Hawley Ph.D. on March 24, 2017 in Trust
Planning for spontaneity seems doomed to fail, but self-trust can help you have more fun.

Do You Ever Feel That You're Not Interesting Enough?

In the book and film "About a Boy," the main adult character comes to realize that his life of leisure and pleasure may prevent him from finding love. What can we learn from this?

Interpersonal Attraction

By Adrian Furnham Ph.D. on March 24, 2017 in A Sideways View
What has evolutionary science to say about physical attractiveness?

5 Ways Self-Compassion Promotes a Healthy Body Image

By Juliana Breines Ph.D. on March 22, 2017 in In Love and War
Many people are overly critical of their appearance. If you're one of them, self-compassion might help.

Lena Dunham's Representations of Mental Illness

More recently viewers have seen a notable shift towards more accurate representations of mental illness. The controversial television series Girls on HBO leads the way.

Why are Some Women Still Afraid to Speak Up?

Observing the behavior of women in groups suggests that women still choose a particular mask to wear depending on the audience.
Kristen Fuller

Eating Disorders: It’s Not All About Food

We often think if we lose those ten pounds, gain muscle or adopt that healthy skin glow then we will feel better to only soon realize our self-esteem is still in the gutter.

Putting the Self Back in Self-Esteem

Don’t put your eggs in other people’s baskets.
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Having to Hit Bottom Before You Change Is Often a Fallacy

Most struggle with behaviors which are self sabotage

Are You in a Toxic Relationship?

If a pattern of toxic love describes your relationship, there is a way out of this spiral. Here are four signs that suggest your relationship very well may be toxic.

Is Your Self-Esteem Too High to Be Successful?

By Rob Henderson on March 20, 2017 in After Service
Self-esteem can be dangerous. Here is a better option backed by research.

You Are What You Think

Ways to change common negative thoughts and make positive life changes.

Small Changes Can Have Big Effects: The I-M Approach

By Joseph A. Shrand M.D. on March 18, 2017 in The I-M Approach
Have you ever promised yourself to do something only to fail miserably? Perhaps you are trying to do too much. The I-M Approach reminds us that small changes can have big effects.

Worth

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on March 18, 2017 in How To Do Life
A short-short story.
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When Is Reimagining the Past a Sign of Emotional Health?

By Barb Cohen on March 17, 2017 in Mom, Am I Disabled?
For counterfactual thinking to be functionally beneficial, we need a coherent story of cause and effect that makes us an essential actor in the story.

What's the Difference Between Guilt and Shame?

By Neel Burton M.D. on March 16, 2017 in Hide and Seek
Shame and guilt often go hand in hand, which is why they are readily confused.

Feel Like a Repeating Train Wreck? Learn to See It Coming

Learning when shift out of autopilot and reflect on situations can make the difference between feeling good in yourself and your relationships, and feeling “like a train wreck.”

The Story of the Dipper and the Bucket

Our fast paced lives leave limited opportunities to touch lives. The story of the dipper and the bucket presents a way to raise other people's sense of worth and raise our own.

How to Stop the Break Up-Make Up Cycle

The pain of ending a meaningful relationship can be so great that many go back again and again to the same partner. Here are four ways to stop the break up-make up cycle.

Creating a More Positive Identity

What keeps us from truly being ourselves? When we side with our inner critic, we accept a prescription for our identity that was written by our past but limits us in the present.

Let's Teach Girls to Be Brave, Not Perfect

Women have been socialized to be perfect. Bravery requires something different: a growth mindset, resilience and vulnerability and self-compassion.

Love Bombing: Are You a Victim?

Think you've found your "soul mate," in a matter of weeks? You might be a victim of love bombing. Learn how to spot the warning signs, and how to recover fast and forever.

Call Children’s Private Body Parts What They Are

Children who know the correct names for their genitals feel better about their bodies, and have an important protection against molesters.

How to Cultivate More Self-Compassion

Want to have a healthier relationship? Start with yourself.
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How Could Men Report More Sex and More Partners Than Women?

By Michael Castleman M.A. on March 01, 2017 in All About Sex
Whenever a man has hetero sex, a woman does, too. Yet men consistently report more sex with more partners. How could this be?

13 Ways to Turn Insecurities Into Relationship Strengths

Recognizing your weaknesses doesn’t have to get in the way of your relationship satisfaction, according to new research on the value of self-security.